OK -- I'm convinced. The sanctity of marriage DOES need defending and I want to sign up to be on the defense team.
I want to be part of making the case that life long relationships between two people who commit themselves to each other and pledge monogamy, fidelity, mutual respect and holy love build up not only the couple and their family but all of us.
I want to argue that such relationships are indeed foundational to so much that is good and strong and solid and healthy about our society -- our culture -- our civilization.
I want to sign on in agreement that it is in such relationships that children are best nurtured -- raised to understand the basic family values of love, commitment, support and mutuality.
As a priest and pastor I want to add that for Christian couples, making that commitment to each other in the context of sacred vows made in front of God and witnessed by the community of faith offers both the faith context and community support to better equip the couple to make it through the "better or worse" times that come to all of us at one point or the other.
And -- perhaps impossibly given the political climate du jour -- I want to challenge the ridiculous assertions that somehow the gender of those seeking to love and promise themselves to each other is more important than the values, love and commitment they bring to the relationship.
I want heterosexuals to take responsibility for what has happened to the institution of marriage on their watch and for those determined to save it to partner with gay and lesbian couples who are still standing as "strangers at the gate" -- yearning for the kind of commitment and responsibility so many straight couples have taken so for granted -- and work together to shift the conversation from the genders that make up the couple to the values that make up the relationship.
And I want to make the case that Britney Spears did more in the 55 hours of her quickly annulled Las Vegas marriage to undermine the sanctity of matrimony than any gay or lesbian couple I have ever known -- and that debacle ALONE should be enough to convince the jury that marriage does INDEED need defending: but not from Gene and Mark, or Rosie and Kelly, or Michael and John, or ...
Where do I sign up for the defense team?